The spiritual law of giving and receiving is seriously out of balance in my life. It is attempting to balance out in equilibrium however, there are still some adjustments that need to be made.
I am a giver and therefore I am having to learn how to receive. As a female and as most females have been programmed and conditioned to give no matter if you have nothing left to give you still give, still do for others. Learning how to receive has been something that has been a process for me that has been occurring over the past two to three years now. The universe has been assisting my learning of how to receive and how to balance out the spiritual law of giving and receiving in my life. I have been placed in experiences where my only choice has been to receive. I cannot say that I have always been gracious about having to receive. Though, I have been grateful for receiving because in certain experiences I have needed to receive. When I say that I have not always been gracious about receiving it is because I seem to have this underlying sense of guilt and shame when it comes to receiving. More times than not I feel guilty and then feel shame because I have to receive. I feel like I have unnecessarily burdened someone else’s time, energy, and their life because they have had to change their life temporarily to accommodate me.
I think how I feel to be a giver. It makes me feel joyful and happy. Giving is something that I truly enjoy doing. I can remember all the times when I was growing up my mom quoting from the Bible where it says there is more happiness in giving than in receiving. This is something that programmed me and conditioned me to be resistant to receiving, to not allow receiving with grace, and without the burden of the feelings of guilt and shame. In order, for the spiritual law of giving and receiving to achieve balance in my life I have to get over and let go of my programming and conditioning and learn to receive without the feelings of guilt and shame.
There have been times that I have given when I have not wanted to and it did not make me feel joyful or happy. However, I did feel those same old feelings that I do with receiving of guilt and shame. I feel guilty and then shame that I did not feel willing to give but did so anyway. When I give when I do not feel like giving I am not being authentic because that kind of giving is not from a joyful and happy place within me. I am not being the truth of who I am when I do not honor myself by giving when I do not feel like giving. Somewhere inside me when I do not give when I think I should be giving there’s a voice often times, it’s my mothers voice telling what a selfish and ungrateful person I am. This is where my guilt and shame about giving when I do not feel like giving comes from, more programming and conditioning that I must work through. More thoughts, ideas, and feelings that I have to let go of because they do not serve me. These thoughts, ideas, and feelings that are not my own that were programmed and conditioned in me from childhood.
I am learning to give when it feels right to me and I am learning to say no when giving does not come from a joyful and happy place within without the not so complimentary feelings of guilt and shame. The spiritual law of giving and receiving is still working to become a balanced equation in my life. As, I become a better version of my previous self I am learning to honor my own feelings. I am learning that other people also enjoy giving because it too makes them feel joyful and happy to be able to give. I am slowly learning how to receive with joy and happiness. I am slowly learning to say no when I do not feel like giving honoring my own feelings and being more authentic with myself and others.
To balance out the equation of the spiritual law of giving and receiving, I will need to be able to give and receive with the same energy of joy and happiness. It is my goal to reach, achieve, and maintain this balance of giving and receiving in my life.